Poetry of Intimacy Lounge, Season 1, Episode 5 · 1 hr 48 min · Explicit
Finger Banging for Climber Boys with Author Lillian Frances
A playful, sex-positive conversation about pleasure, anatomy and asking for what you want.
Lillian Frances is a rock climber, Lover Girl and Pop Star based in LA. She believes communication is the key to better pleasure. Her mission is to help people understand what they want, ask for it and get it. In this episode she joins Honeybee to talk about her book, Finger Banging for Climber Boys: And Everyone Else. It started as a funny climber-gym joke and became a practical guide to pleasure, anatomy and communication.
I got to Meet this Pop Star Babe in Real Life before we recorded. DIVINE TIMING.
I found out about Lillian Frances through a reel on her instagram page. She shared a story on how she accidentally posted her Finger Banging content on her personal feed where her family could see all that she was cookin up. It was a hilarious find and I was instantly hooked!
I thought to myself, this would be the most divine addition to the Poetry of Intimacy Lounge Podcast!
So I slid into her DMs asking if she would ever be down to get on the show with me.
Luckily for all humankind and all those seeking to understand how to finger bang, this dream finally came true.
How cute are we?
Here we are folks, Lillian Frances and I on a random weekday night in SLO county after she played a set at a local bar.
"We have a ninety percent higher chance of getting what we want if we just ask for it. And that is in the bedroom and that is in every other area of life." – Lillian Frances
"The amount of pleasure we can receive from any encounter really is directly correlated to our ability to identify what we want and express that." – Lillian Frances
What we talk about 💬
Consent and body literacy
How better communication leads to better intimacy
Vulva and clitoris anatomy
Squirting versus female ejaculate
Simple ways to ask for what you want without killing the mood
Lillian's original song, a boundary anthem that turns a bad romantic experience into something empowering
This is a juicy, raw and real conversation about the mess and magic of love.
Listen on whichever platform you enjoy!
Timestamps ⏱️
01:36 – Lillian Frances and her new book
11:16 – The clitoris is an entire pleasure structure
13:59 – What gave Lillian the courage to finish the book
25:09 – Pleasure as life force and a birthright
33:03 – Reframing feedback as a gift, not a rejection
39:10 – Why finger banging can be a safer alternative to penetration
42:02 – Slow touch, buildup and erogenous zones
45:42 – A 32-hour kiss and the pain of being ghosted
50:36 – The first Burning Man workshop that inspired the book
54:07 – Lillian's late-bloomer honesty and awkward early experiences
57:57 – Why assumptions about consent cause so many problems
60:20 – The meaning behind Lillian's Norwegian Wood tattoo
63:54 – "Am I protecting him or am I protecting me?"
68:28 – The arm yank and O spot stimulation
71:25 – Hygiene, nails and avoiding painful friction
73:40 – Female ejaculate versus squirting
81:07 – Most women may be able to squirt with the right technique
83:34 – Dads, sons and curious frat bros reading the book
87:15 – Post-game recap: talking after sex to improve the next time
97:04 – Lillian performs "Someone Else's Problem"
Links and goodies 🔗
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Follow along ✅
Honeybee: @honey.bee.smooth
Lillian Frances: @fingerbangingforclimberboys
Website: honeybeelovealchemy.com
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